maiden tangling
Flow & Tangle
We are born from the FLOW, into the FLOW, and with our own inner FLOW—all of which are chock full of naturally replenishing, self-sustaining vitality.
What we gotta keep reminding ourselves about all of this is that a woman’s seasonal experiences are embodied ones. This means that even as her Wheel of Life continues to turn & she evolves into and then out of her season of the Maiden, she still carries within her body & her psyche all that contributed to her experiences before, during, and after her time as a Maiden.
This includes all of her Maiden GIFTS as well as any Maiden TANGLES that might crop up.
Tangling has a way of twisting our timelines, our storylines, our bloodlines in such a way that our FLOW is compromised.
It might involve our FLOW being blocked—choked out, suppressed, repressed. It might involve our FLOW being overloaded—exhausted, depleted, overdrawn. Either way, the result is the same: the sustainability of our energetic vitality is made to be LESS THAN.
Persistent tangling can also interfere with our ability to fully experience each of the other three seasons that comprise each of a woman’s many creative cycles. I mean, if my Spring/Maiden is tangled, it becomes more challenging to flow easily into my Summer/Mother season, and from there, into my Autumn/Matriarch-Queen, and then into my Winter/Crone, and of course, back into another season with the Maiden.
So for each of our seasons, getting clear about the degree of our FLOW and the degree of our TANGLING is a big deal.
Maiden Tangles
For this reason, my work as a coach for women often includes Maidening work—regardless of a client’s current season of life. When Maidening FLOW is moving sustainably, we easily take risks, explore our creative potentials, and play around with what attracts us.
But…
When MAIDEN FLOW is BLOCKED, it can look like some/any of these:
Perfectionism
Risk aversion (Staying “safe” and small and silent, never coloring outside the lines)
Suppressing/repressing/projecting attraction & our sexual instincts
Suffering from chronic boredom and/or feeling trapped
And…
When MAIDEN FLOW is OVERLOADED, it might look like some/any of these:
Inability to commit
Unable to prioritize among an overwhelming number of options
Inability to “unplug”
Patterns of living wildly off-the-chain, taking reckless chances with self & others (unnecessarily risking what should be cherished)
Unchecked promiscuity/self-abandonment
Do some of these “tangle potentials” resonate with you? If yes, then, know that you are not alone. Our culture certainly hasn’t supported us in Maiden Flow; in fact, most of us have been pretty much programmed to NEVER FEEL GOOD in our Maidening. I mean, are we to celebrate or be condemned for our sexuality? Are we to be adventurously taking chances or focused on what we can do “perfectly”? Are we to GO BIG or stay silenced?)!
Tangle Taming
Regardless of how our culture’s confusion, we simply can’t afford to pay what THEY OVER THERE are saying to us. We’ve got to focus our energies on connecting with our divinely gifted and naturally occurring FLOW. And, we’ve got to address ANYTHING that might be compromising its lively, lovely life-giving energy.
For some of us, taming our Maiden tangles happens through self-coaching. For Well-Seasoned Women, this will include first Naming the tangle, then Reclaiming It, and finally Acclaiming it through rituals and embodied practices. NOTE: This taming protocol is one I unpack in my workshops, newsletters, and here in this blog.
Others of us might wanna fast-track the untangling through a few professional coaching sessions, since coaching is about focusing on creating a path forward. (If this is you, I'd love for you to sign up for a free Discovery Call with me here.)
Still others might need to engage in therapy to heal from tangling with a traumatic origin.
When a woman is able to affirm, practice, and sustain her FLOW, she truly savors every season of her wild and precious life, and she’s able to celebrate Maiden FLOW in the world around her, in her creative cycles, and in her very own body/life.
